Ignored, Disrespected, Criticized? You Don’t Need to Tolerate It

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This topic goes right back to your values and your commitment to ensure that what exists in your life is a reflection of these values. Also at the heart of singles who tolerate behavior that is unacceptable is the value that is placed on themselves and, for some, the strong desire to have a partner (on almost any terms) in their lives.

There were 2 distinct periods in my life where I have reflected on the behaviors that I tolerated from the people that I had been dating. The 1st period was quite early in my life when I was a teen and the 2nd period was my late 20s to early 30s, when the quietly brewing anxiety related to not being married peaked. Now some would say that, on a larger scale, the things that I tolerated were minor. I tend to disagree. Anything that takes a person away from their right to live with a sense of freedom and fulfillment signifies grounds for removal wherever possible. Of course, hindsight is always 20/20 right? Its so hard to see at that time. It wasn’t until I began to focus on myself, my development, my true potential and assets that I kicked it all to the curb and put the “whoo-hoo” back in my vocabulary.

Have you reached a point where you can reflect on your past dates and relationships with sincerity? Are you clear and driven to only accept behaviors that you are deserving of? If not, there is no better time. With each action that you tolerate, you minimize the value that you place on your own life. Start seeing the incredible assets that you bring to any circumstance, and you will no longer be willing to accept what falls below your standards. If it means that you lose a relationship (or potential relationship), then so be it. Eventually, when the dust (or grief) settles, you will see that it has only left more room for better. I’m sure you are familiar with the saying, “when one door closes, another one opens”.

Affirmation: I structure my life to uphold my true values and identity.

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