It’s Very Difficult to Make New Experiences Work for You, When the Old Baggage Keeps Filling Up Your Mind Open Yourself to New Patterns of Healthy Living

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Probably one of the hardest things for singles to master is separating and making peace with things that have happened in the past.  What makes it particularly challenging is when it leads to confusion in your current situations and relationships because you are unsure about the accuracy of your experience.  Singles  ask themselves, “Is this based on what I know in the present? Or is this reminding me of what happened with - in the past?”

Well, what can you do?  Come to terms with what keeps re-surfacing in your life.  Accept what it was, accept how it affected you, and accept that it may be a memory that will be with you for some time.  Then, let it go.  Say good-bye and take control over what you desire to be present in your life.  Remind yourself that your single life vision does not include doubts and misguided decision-making.  If a current experience brings back these memories and accompanying feelings, then pause to reflect on its validity.  These cues can also be important, protective reminders that prevent you from repeating previous mistakes as well as breaking unhealthy patterns of behavior.  Trust that you can follow the course that is best for you.  Ask for feedback when you still can’t determine the influence of old baggage on your vision for today. 

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Affirmation: Today I nurture the past and become open to the riches offered by today.

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Seek out that particular mental attitude which makes you feel most deeply and vitally alive, along with which comes the inner voice which says, “This is the real me,” and when you have found that attitude, follow it.

~William James

Passions Uncovered Through Growth

Life transformations that occur from such experiences as divorce, starting a new job, or a major illness, will lead to opportunities for growth that can modify your perception on the way you have been living your life. The process will often bring to light key details that previously had not been in the forefront, including your values and passions. Feeling unsupported at the start of a new job, for example, may lead you to develop an enhanced welcoming and mentoring committee.  You may find that assuming this role is something that you enjoy doing.  Many parents have established advocacy groups and organizations following an experience such as losing a child.  Has there been an experience that has resulted in your discovery of a new passion?  Have you acted upon this new awareness? 

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