It’s Very Difficult to Make New Experiences Work for You, When the Old Baggage Keeps Filling Up Your Mind Open Yourself to New Patterns of Healthy Living

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Probably one of the hardest things for singles to master is separating and making peace with things that have happened in the past.  What makes it particularly challenging is when it leads to confusion in your current situations and relationships because you are unsure about the accuracy of your experience.  Singles  ask themselves, “Is this based on what I know in the present? Or is this reminding me of what happened with - in the past?”

Well, what can you do?  Come to terms with what keeps re-surfacing in your life.  Accept what it was, accept how it affected you, and accept that it may be a memory that will be with you for some time.  Then, let it go.  Say good-bye and take control over what you desire to be present in your life.  Remind yourself that your single life vision does not include doubts and misguided decision-making.  If a current experience brings back these memories and accompanying feelings, then pause to reflect on its validity.  These cues can also be important, protective reminders that prevent you from repeating previous mistakes as well as breaking unhealthy patterns of behavior.  Trust that you can follow the course that is best for you.  Ask for feedback when you still can’t determine the influence of old baggage on your vision for today. 

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Affirmation: Today I nurture the past and become open to the riches offered by today.

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Is it important? Do they have it? Don’t Compromise Your Values

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Your values represent your personal index of what you consider most essential in life. No one is completely void of values. They simply vary from person to person and between levels of awareness. If singles do not take the time to think about those values, they can easily be overlooked when making important choices. One of the most crucial choices for singles relates to who you surround yourself with - including dates.

The problem with living your life with an awareness and adherence to things that you most value, is that many people cannot identify them. Many years ago, my name would have been in bold letters in this category of the “in the dark” about what I valued most. “You can’t solve the problem because you don’t know what it is” ~ A Course in Miracles. It also goes to say that, if you don’t know what you value, you can be sure that it is relatively non-existent in the course of daily living. Through my own personal development process (combined with repeated exposure to contradictions) I became quite clear about the things that are important to me. With this clarity, I was able to know quite quickly whether or not a person in my life was in opposition to or supportive to my particular values. It took all of the wondering and internal turmoil away. The knowledge put me in control. “When you don’t have a grip on life, it will definitely get a grip on you” ~ Jewel Diamond-Taylor.

I would agree that you can’t always have complete control of the people with opposing values where family and career may be concerned. You do, however, have a certain level of control in these areas. Where you do have exclusive control is in your social relationships and dating. Don’t give that control away. Know what is important to you, commit to its existence in your life and be prepared to move on if the person doesn’t fit.

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